Knife to the Heart ...

[texchan]

So my daughter is dawdling over her breakfast this morning (of course, since she has to be at camp by 9 AM, as opposed to all the days when she has nowhere to be and eats quickly >.O). Every day that my mom was here, she would tell me about this HUGE breakfast she ate -- well, huge for her, anyhow: fruit, cereal, two cups of chocolate milk, yadda, yadda, yadda. This morning, though, it was a struggle to get her to eat even a part of a banana and a handful of cereal. In total frustration, I ask her: "Why do you eat so well when Nana is here, but this morning, you don't want to eat at all?"

Her reply: "Because I like Nana better than you."

zOMG. Knife, meet Heart.

It made me want to cry. Seriously. I had a hard time holding it together, but I managed. I was honest and told her that hurt my feelings, but that it was OK for her to feel that way.

And I can understand it. I mean, I have my own issues with my mom, but she is totally different with my daughter. She is fun and funny and just ... different.

Still, there was this little part of me ... this little kid inside my head screaming: "HOW COULD YOU LIKE HER MORE? YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT SHE'S LIKE!!!"

*sigh*

Comments

[katanas-edge.livejournal.com]

wow that would of hurt me too! @_@

My oldest said something similar but different. more of "you don't love me". Don't ask what lead to that since it was something stupid and of him being so spoiled not getting his way opening his mouth like that and saying that. He felt bad later on saying it since he knows how much I love him and his brother and both kids I love the same. Both my kids know that, but my oldest son got his way a little to much when little and growing up so now he thinks he can get what he wants with trying to "manipulate" me. That's what you get from giving them what they want. ah well!!
But children always will say something hurtful to their parent when they hurt or want to get attention, or just for being kids.
Like your Mom just stayed for so long with you, your daughter is used to having a Nana paying attention to her and misses her Nana probably so that's why she didnt' eat and said that. Just be patient and just keep doing what you have been doing. Don't let that beat you! Just be a Mom ^_^

Don't feel bad, your daughter is young and of what I heard is that girls have more of a way of saying hurtful things like that then boys. >_<

*hugs*

[tex-chan.livejournal.com]

It was a hard and painful thing to hear, even though I tried to remind myself she doesn't totally mean it. I mean, I know she loves my mom, and that's a good thing. It's hard, sometimes, to separate out "being human" from "being a parent". The proper parental thing to do, I know, was to be OK with it ... but the human being inside of me just wants to be loved the best. I think I managed to hold it together OK, though. I hope. >.O

Awww, I'm so sorry you had something similar recently with your son. I know that had to hurt a lot, too. *hugs* At least he felt bad later on for saying it, and he realizes it's not true.

I think it's true that girls say hurtful things more than boys, just because I think that's the way girls learn to "fight" (for lack of a better word) in our society. Plus, they seem to develop language skills earlier. Even so, I was hoping I wouldn't have to hear something like this until her teenage years. *laughs*

EDIT: Ack! I knew I was forgetting something here! *HUGS* =D