Knife to the Heart ...

[texchan]

So my daughter is dawdling over her breakfast this morning (of course, since she has to be at camp by 9 AM, as opposed to all the days when she has nowhere to be and eats quickly >.O). Every day that my mom was here, she would tell me about this HUGE breakfast she ate -- well, huge for her, anyhow: fruit, cereal, two cups of chocolate milk, yadda, yadda, yadda. This morning, though, it was a struggle to get her to eat even a part of a banana and a handful of cereal. In total frustration, I ask her: "Why do you eat so well when Nana is here, but this morning, you don't want to eat at all?"

Her reply: "Because I like Nana better than you."

zOMG. Knife, meet Heart.

It made me want to cry. Seriously. I had a hard time holding it together, but I managed. I was honest and told her that hurt my feelings, but that it was OK for her to feel that way.

And I can understand it. I mean, I have my own issues with my mom, but she is totally different with my daughter. She is fun and funny and just ... different.

Still, there was this little part of me ... this little kid inside my head screaming: "HOW COULD YOU LIKE HER MORE? YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT SHE'S LIKE!!!"

*sigh*

Comments

[ladybuggington.livejournal.com]

*hugs*Kids almost always like their grandparents better when they're young, it's all of the love and attention with none of the rules and discipline. My grandparents spoiled the crap out of me when I was kid and I always wanted to spend more time with them than I did my parents. I much prefer talking to and spending time with my mom than I do with my grandparents now.

[katanas-edge.livejournal.com]

wow that would of hurt me too! @_@

My oldest said something similar but different. more of "you don't love me". Don't ask what lead to that since it was something stupid and of him being so spoiled not getting his way opening his mouth like that and saying that. He felt bad later on saying it since he knows how much I love him and his brother and both kids I love the same. Both my kids know that, but my oldest son got his way a little to much when little and growing up so now he thinks he can get what he wants with trying to "manipulate" me. That's what you get from giving them what they want. ah well!!
But children always will say something hurtful to their parent when they hurt or want to get attention, or just for being kids.
Like your Mom just stayed for so long with you, your daughter is used to having a Nana paying attention to her and misses her Nana probably so that's why she didnt' eat and said that. Just be patient and just keep doing what you have been doing. Don't let that beat you! Just be a Mom ^_^

Don't feel bad, your daughter is young and of what I heard is that girls have more of a way of saying hurtful things like that then boys. >_<

*hugs*

[genuinelie.livejournal.com]

Well, firstly, you have to know that's not true.

I said ALL sorts of things to my own mom growing up. Didn't we all?

Plus, keep in mind Nana is most like not enforcing bedtimes, chores, homework etc. on a day to day basis like I assume you are. So the kid saying things like that would be understandable (but on a superficial level).

If you say something like, "You don't know what she's like" - be glad of it! You wouldn't really want her to, would you?

[steffannee.livejournal.com]

Aw. T_T I'd cry too. *hugs*

But like everyone else said, she doesn't mean it.

*more hugs*

[skyrat13.livejournal.com]

Aww. I remember saying a ton of stuff when I was really young that was pretty insensitive, and I didn't even really mean at the time, that I regreted when I was older and knew better. As lots of people said above, you know she didn't really mean it, but that's still a horrible thing to hear. ;__;

*hugs*

[animerei.livejournal.com]

Ah, the blunt honesty and unintentional cruelty of children...


All kids love their grandma's more than their mom's. Because mom makes you DO things, while grandma typically does things for you.

Don't worry -- she'll grow out of it.

[tai-meyer.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

[metallijedi1.livejournal.com]

*bear hug*

I know it was pretty hard to hear those words, even
when you know she really doesn´t mean that.

I know you´ll have a very different relationship
with the chibi... I just know it´s going to be a much
healthy loving relationship than the one you have
with the boss-lady.

I can see the difference between a grandma and a mom
I see it with my mother... she was like a general
with us and with my nephews and nieces she´s so sweet and loving that sometimes I scratch my head and think
"is it the same person that raised me?".

Grandmas are cooler while growing up (sweet, nice and no rules), but mothers win when you get your first period (someday I´ll tell u my experience on the matter).

Just remember... the grandmas are nice because 1. the
one that has to dicipline the kid is not them. 2. they have interaction withthe grnd kids for a moment, not all day, every moth or every year..

*Bear hug*